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19-03-2004, 08:43 AM
You own your mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission - Ralph Waldo Emerson
As soon as you hear a negative thought coming into your mind, from yourself or others - take action immediately!
Cancel the thought
If you say or think “I can’t do that,” immediately tell your mind in a firm tone: “cancel, cancel,” “delete,” “stop” or “get lost.” Doesn’t matter – you can use a word that works for you. If it feels silly, that’s OK. It works. Mentally repeat: “I can do it. If I don’t know how, I will learn or ask for help.”
Beliefs manifest through our self-talk and behaviour; what you say and how you say it and what you do.
Reframe thoughts
Don’t put negative labels on yourself or let others label you negatively. If you suffer from depression, don’t say “I am a depressed person.” Reframe the words by saying “At times, I suffer from feelings of depression.” Describe feelings you are experiencing in that moment. Everyone has moments where they’re tired, exhausted or experiencing pain and suffering. You need to experience the emotions. If you say, “I’ll never get through this,” change it to...”This too shall pass.”
Ask questions
Asking productive, “what, how, who or when” questions moves you to solutions then action and keeps you positive. If you think “I’m afraid,” ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Your unconscious mind will go to work to find a solution to that question. The response might be: “I’m afraid I won’t succeed.” Ask another question then. "What do I need to do today to ensure success?" "How can I make this happen?" "Who do I need to call and when does this need to be done?" These questions will help you stay focused, positive and on target with your goals.
Be curious about your thinking processes. Find out what is stopping you and move into action by setting a plan to DO one thing about it. Whenever you berate yourself or someone else does, be assertive. If you don’t know how to be assertive or have a tendency toward passivity and don’t stand up for yourself, take an assertiveness course or read a book on the subject. Be assertively tough with yourself.
Don’t let yourself or others put you down.
Develop “Thought Blocker Habits"
Daily, moment by moment, challenge your thoughts until “thought blockers” become an unconscious habit. Instantly replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Psychologically it takes about 21 days to change a habit. It might have taken you 21 years to become an expert in negative thinking or berating others.
Take a moment
Write down ongoing negative thoughts that emerge or words you call yourself. Commit to “cancel or block” those thoughts every time you hear them and re-frame them immediately.
Investing 21 days to change your thought processes is a very healthy return on investment!
As soon as you hear a negative thought coming into your mind, from yourself or others - take action immediately!
Cancel the thought
If you say or think “I can’t do that,” immediately tell your mind in a firm tone: “cancel, cancel,” “delete,” “stop” or “get lost.” Doesn’t matter – you can use a word that works for you. If it feels silly, that’s OK. It works. Mentally repeat: “I can do it. If I don’t know how, I will learn or ask for help.”
Beliefs manifest through our self-talk and behaviour; what you say and how you say it and what you do.
Reframe thoughts
Don’t put negative labels on yourself or let others label you negatively. If you suffer from depression, don’t say “I am a depressed person.” Reframe the words by saying “At times, I suffer from feelings of depression.” Describe feelings you are experiencing in that moment. Everyone has moments where they’re tired, exhausted or experiencing pain and suffering. You need to experience the emotions. If you say, “I’ll never get through this,” change it to...”This too shall pass.”
Ask questions
Asking productive, “what, how, who or when” questions moves you to solutions then action and keeps you positive. If you think “I’m afraid,” ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Your unconscious mind will go to work to find a solution to that question. The response might be: “I’m afraid I won’t succeed.” Ask another question then. "What do I need to do today to ensure success?" "How can I make this happen?" "Who do I need to call and when does this need to be done?" These questions will help you stay focused, positive and on target with your goals.
Be curious about your thinking processes. Find out what is stopping you and move into action by setting a plan to DO one thing about it. Whenever you berate yourself or someone else does, be assertive. If you don’t know how to be assertive or have a tendency toward passivity and don’t stand up for yourself, take an assertiveness course or read a book on the subject. Be assertively tough with yourself.
Don’t let yourself or others put you down.
Develop “Thought Blocker Habits"
Daily, moment by moment, challenge your thoughts until “thought blockers” become an unconscious habit. Instantly replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Psychologically it takes about 21 days to change a habit. It might have taken you 21 years to become an expert in negative thinking or berating others.
Take a moment
Write down ongoing negative thoughts that emerge or words you call yourself. Commit to “cancel or block” those thoughts every time you hear them and re-frame them immediately.
Investing 21 days to change your thought processes is a very healthy return on investment!