~* Lessons in Life

[iQing]

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We have experiensed a lot of things in life.
in the journey of life we have seen, heard and learned a lot of things...
we learn from events and we grow wiser.
Can you please share your experience and lesson of life with us?

[ElansarGelmir]

my lesson for today:

The guy with the avatar of Neo doesn't behave like Neo... in fact, i think he's cuckoo! LOL!!!

[iQing]

I learn that making and chatting with new friends (ReComer) are very meaningful....

nice to meet so many great people.
nice to see many new members joining this great SIG!

(I have just downloaded ICQ and add ReComers as many as possible... hehe)

[iQing]

my lesson for today:

The guy with the avatar of Neo doesn't behave like Neo... in fact, i think he's cuckoo! LOL!!!

hmmm?
where got neo?
what neo?
u mean the red patung dragon?

[ElansarGelmir]

You deleted your avatar just because i mentioned it? Wah, a little not sporting leh.

I have learnt something important today. One day break from Recom== miss lots of things!

[iQing]

I feel that life consist many loops...
I feel like I am repeating the same things everyday.. doing only a few same things....

in primary school time we have one big loop... everyday.. going to school etc.
when we go to secondary school we enter another new loop. doing similar things everyday..
now in uni I am repeating my uni loop and I think I am fed up with this loop of life..
even I choose to break myself free from such loop but I can?t do so.. I feel so powerless...

life...
I am trying to break free from this loop.....

[chiunlin]

I feel that life consist many loops...
I feel like I am repeating the same things everyday.. doing only a few same things....

in primary school time we have one big loop... everyday.. going to school etc.
when we go to secondary school we enter another new loop. doing similar things everyday..
now in uni I am repeating my uni loop and I think I am fed up with this loop of life..
even I choose to break myself free from such loop but I can?t do so.. I feel so powerless...

life...
I am trying to break free from this loop.....

Sounds vaguely familiar, there's a theory for this. A theory which describes that everything in life is just a repeating process.

Life is all but a choice...

[PJKru]

i think a lesson i learned was that i shouldnt ring my friends everyday when my friend told me he didnt like it.

[sabishii]

life...
I am trying to break free from this loop.....

we all feel this sometimes in life. it all boils down to how you want to look at the 'loops'. hav u tot tat the act of breaking free frm the loop is also a part of a bigger loop itself? why not take it as it is, loops or no loops, i always strive to make those loops more interesting. i do so by looping in and out of other's loops. : ) look at each loop as having a different color, i guess the outcome of this would make a pretty remarkable artpiece too

[rdt_adamite]

Unexpected turns is life. When you think you have seen everything in life, it turns to be that life wants to see everything in you.

[vseehua]

i learnt to take life one step at a time...that makes life so much easier to thread..no stress about my past, because i can't ever change it, no stress about my future, it's uncertain no matter how much you plan...


:D

never underestimate your abilities . Everyone has their unique powers .

[vseehua]

never underestimate your abilities . Everyone has their unique powers .

with great powers comes great responsibilities... everyone have their own part to play in this world. Look deep within yourself and rest assured that you will be able to find it. Sometimes you just have to look a bit harder...

[sunshine88]

I used to be a bad-tempered girl when i was a primary kid.I hate when my mom and sis offer me advice...I whacked my friends who dared to tease me...Umm..they were guys actually..but now they're my friends...he..heh..Such a rude girl i am...One thing is for sure...my nasty behaviour wasn't of anyones favour in my family...But,at one point i had a great eye-opener.That was when i was in Standard 6.I was so intrigued to this cantonese soap opera,"The Journey To The West".The more i watch it,the more i became enticed...Then,i did a research about Buddha and his teachings.I did it with my two other friends.I even asked the librarian teacher for the library keys,when i don't have class .After learning about Buddhism,i turned over a new leaf..I was able to be patient most of the time...and i never throw tantrums.I do feel-good after i practiced some of Buddha's teaching in my daily lives.I also learnt not to cause harm to innocent life...never even wanna stomp on an ant...When my friends teased me..i don't bother them much...but i do whack them once in a while for fun..He..heh..Can't resist it......What lesson did i learnt?Just like what i said earlier;i l was able to control my temper,give more respect to the elders...I knew that i'll never benefit for getting frustrated instantly and nobody likes grumpy people....Well,i can say i started to look life at a very different perspective,which is good.I changed for the better.

Then,I had a friendship with a person when i was in secondary.Well,i never wanna reveal what had happened,but that person have betrayed my trust.My biggest mistake;trusting a person a lot.I thought i can always count on this person for help....I must thank this person,for giving me an unexpected experience.This person have taught me not to trust someone whole-heartedly.But sadly,i never got the chance to say thank u.. :P

Born in a family with a business background has also offered me with useful skills.I learnt a lot.What lessons i learnt....Hmmm...I learnt that i should do a work given at a fast pace.I would get unbearable words from daddy if i carry out a work very slowly.At first,i was so ashamed when he scolds me and my sisters in front of some adults.The scoldings were more powerful and vicious than his canings...But after a while,we were more disciplined under his supervision...I learnt how to be open-minded and optimistic when somebody offers criticism....I learnt that i shouldn't be reluctant to face the world.There were other family problems,which i rather not share here.What i can tell is that life isn't always filled with laughters.There will be hardships which should be overcomed with perseverance and determination.Suicide is not the best way to run away from problematic situations.


Hmm..and there are tonnes of other incidences that caught my attention ,forcing me look back and think on what i've learnt and what mistakes that i shouldn't repeat in future..At the time being,this is enough.

[vseehua]

hmm... i am the type who likes to work to at my own pace... no amount of forcing will be able to make me go faster or slower... how fast i work also depends on whether i like it la of course... heh heh...

one big part of life is that we make mistakes and learn from it. When we do, we improve on ourselves. But watch out for the limit, if fear of making the past mistakes is always there, it might impede us from going further...

[4seasonspring]

Life is unpredictable.......expect the unexpected

[vseehua]

I learn that if we don't enjoy life now, we never will...

[4seasonspring]

I learn that if we don't enjoy life now, we never will...

yea yea....esp when we dunno when will we die or wat's going to happen next in the future.

Dun worry, be happy! :wink:

[4seasonspring]

WHile the saying goes....

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy..... 8)

but one thing to remember is.....

There're always limits to jokes and plays, whether u like it or not. :wink:

[sunshine88]

i just came back from a camp..and i got trio as my friends at that camp..The thrice are siblings..These three sisters have only one mobile phone for them to take turn to use..but i've been observing that only one of them is overpowering her rights.She refuses to lend her mobile phone to her two sisters when they asked for it for a while.
This sister who holds the cell phone most of the time,seems to always isolate herself at one corner away from her other 2 sisters.
Sometimes,she yells at them when both compel her to give in the cellphone for their use.
This drama sparked my thinking skills again..
I thought to myself..
and i learned to look at my own sisters at a different perspective.
Before this,i always consider my sisters as inconsiderate and intolerable jerks..
But,what i've learned while my stay at the dorm, is that the spirit of sisterhood,give and take,consideration and toleration(only for sensible matters) are more vital over material importance.That are the things that i can see in my sisters,I'm proud that both didn't end up like the trios.I learn to appreciate my sisters better.
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and yeah,before i forget...
since i have lead my first 10 days at dorm and kampung..
i never wanna miss out the lessons i had learned from there to be shared over here...
Lesson #1-Toleration...Yes,i have encountered problems with the dorm mates who continues to chit chat and leave the room lit till 1 am...and sucking food from the canteen...the smoke puffs from my ayah angkat,tea drink for every break..etc.but i never make a call to my mom to whine like a baby.I learned to tolerate them with my utmost patience and maturity..he..he..
Before this i could only think of how important toleration is to face the world stranger to me...but i got the chance to feel the importance when i dared to venture alone..

Lesson#2-Social Responsibility...Not only within
my circle of friends but also with my facilitators, group leaders ...Socialising is the only way for me to get things done faster..No point in being deaf and mute.

Lesson#3Life isn't a bed of roses-THis,i have realised ages before.But i noticed that being and living away from home can also mean the same too..

Lesson#3-Independence-I learnt to do many things by myself without my parents guide

Lesson#4-Self-reliance...That is without depending on adults and friends when u are facing your own trouble...Something like lesson#3. :P

Lesson#5-Voluntary and its importance..Before this i never do bother about voluntary works.But after this camp,i got updated about what does voluntary is all about and how it plays a role in our society..

Lesson#6-Courage...I earned lots of it...Really..Now,i feel like it is normal for me to go up a stage without hesitation and sing like jaclyn victor.:P..My stage fright is all gone now.

emm..i have to say that eventhough it was only a 10 day camp..there were many things it has offered me ..Thank you PJKN.Missing u so much...

[4seasonspring]

i just came back from a camp..and i got trio as my friends at that camp..The thrice are siblings..These three sisters have only one mobile phone for them to take turn to use..but i've been observing that only one of them is overpowering her rights.She refuses to lend her mobile phone to her two sisters when they asked for it for a while.
This sister who holds the cell phone most of the time,seems to always isolate herself at one corner away from her other 2 sisters.
Sometimes,she yells at them when both compel her to give in the cellphone for their use.
This drama sparked my thinking skills again..
I thought to myself..
and i learned to look at my own sisters at a different perspective.
Before this,i always consider my sisters as inconsiderate and intolerable jerks..
But,what i've learned while my stay at the dorm, is that the spirit of sisterhood,give and take,consideration and toleration(only for sensible matters) are more vital over material importance.That are the things that i can see in my sisters,I'm proud that both didn't end up like the trios.I learn to appreciate my sisters better.
********************************************
and yeah,before i forget...
since i have lead my first 10 days at dorm and kampung..
i never wanna miss out the lessons i had learned from there to be shared over here...
Lesson #1-Toleration...Yes,i have encountered problems with the dorm mates who continues to chit chat and leave the room lit till 1 am...and sucking food from the canteen...the smoke puffs from my ayah angkat,tea drink for every break..etc.but i never make a call to my mom to whine like a baby.I learned to tolerate them with my utmost patience and maturity..he..he..
Before this i could only think of how important toleration is to face the world stranger to me...but i got the chance to feel the importance when i dared to venture alone..

Lesson#2-Social Responsibility...Not only within
my circle of friends but also with my facilitators, group leaders ...Socialising is the only way for me to get things done faster..No point in being deaf and mute.

Lesson#3Life isn't a bed of roses-THis,i have realised ages before.But i noticed that being and living away from home can also mean the same too..

Lesson#3-Independence-I learnt to do many things by myself without my parents guide

Lesson#4-Self-reliance...That is without depending on adults and friends when u are facing your own trouble...Something like lesson#3. :P

Lesson#5-Voluntary and its importance..Before this i never do bother about voluntary works.But after this camp,i got updated about what does voluntary is all about and how it plays a role in our society..

Lesson#6-Courage...I earned lots of it...Really..Now,i feel like it is normal for me to go up a stage without hesitation and sing like jaclyn victor.:P..My stage fright is all gone now.

emm..i have to say that eventhough it was only a 10 day camp..there were many things it has offered me ..Thank you PJKN.Missing u so much...

Great sharing, sunshine88 :wink: .....hopefully this can let those who gt selected for NS 2007 to see the good sides which can be learnt in NS.....u won't regret tat u go in.....(although some activities inside are kinda boring and crappy)....but it's still a totally different experience.....whether it's good or bad. :wink:

[4seasonspring]

Say sorry when u r wrong. :wink:

there's no point u win everything(the arguement or the pride)....while at the same time......u lose everything(ppl's impression on u relationship wif ur partner, family or frenship)

[vseehua]

Smile when you can~ :wink:

[4seasonspring]

cry if u want to :cry: :cry:

[vseehua]

cry if u want to :cry: :cry:crying is a form of expression, so when you feel like it, just let everything out... ;)

[4seasonspring]

cry if u want to :cry: :cry:crying is a form of expression, so when you feel like it, just let everything out... ;)

tissue pls.... :cry: :cry:

[brucesharky]

Smile even when you're sad. It takes half of your sadness and stress away. ( Tried tat in NS 2007....hahaha.... always got scolded and punished)

Laugh and the world laughs with you,
Weep, and you weep alone.

[vseehua]

Weep, and you weep alone.not always true...

[brucesharky]

:lol: Hehe.... actually that's a verse from the poem Solitude by Ella Wheeler Wilcox....(I was lazy to look up who's the poet, lucky tak kena sue =p) "weep and you weep alone" ..... and I agree... not always true.

[brucesharky]

Solitude
Ella Wheeler Wilcox

LAUGH, and the world laughs with you;
Weep, and you weep alone.
For the sad old earth must borrow it's mirth,
But has trouble enough of it's own.
Sing, and the hills will answer;
Sigh, it is lost on the air.
The echoes bound to a joyful sound,
But shrink from voicing care.

Rejoice, and men will seek you;
Grieve, and they turn and go.
They want full measure of all your pleasure,
But they do not need your woe.
Be glad, and your friends are many;
Be sad, and you lose them all.
There are none to decline your nectared wine,
But alone you must drink life's gall.

Feast, and your halls are crowded;
Fast, and the world goes by.
Succeed and give, and it helps you live,
But no man can help you die.
There is room in the halls of pleasure
For a long and lordly train,
But one by one we must all file on
Through the narrow aisles of pain.

Here's the poem. One of my favourites. Teaches me that being happy, smiling, laughing, draws ppl closer to me. But I guess it's during the hard fall, when the world comes crushing down on me, that I will find my true friends. The ones that will be there when I weep. :) (Dunno why, since upper secondary, i'm into self help stuff-books especially)

[vseehua]

nice one... a lot of people don't know how to help themselves in times of misery.

You best friend and enemy is you yourself... Now go and start loving yourself. The compliment to this phrase is: love others, you love yourself, love yourself, you love the others as well...

[icy_cold88]

I've learned the hard way that ..
In life, not everyone will like you, and it's daaaaaamn hard to find who your true friends really are. And in the end, you'll realize that the only one who you can 100% depend on is......................you.

[vseehua]

I've learned the hard way that ..
In life, not everyone will like you, and it's daaaaaamn hard to find who your true friends really are. And in the end, you'll realize that the only one who you can 100% depend on is......................you.i bet even my best friends can't like everything abt me 100%.

[Calvin-metta]

[quote="sunshine88"]I used to be a bad-tempered girl when i was a primary kid.I hate when my mom and sis offer me advice...I whacked my friends who dared to tease me...Umm..they were guys actually..but now they're my friends...he..heh..Such a rude girl i am...One thing is for sure...my nasty behaviour wasn't of anyones favour in my family...But,at one point i had a great eye-opener.That was when i was in Standard 6.I was so intrigued to this cantonese soap opera,"The Journey To The West".The more i watch it,the more i became enticed...Then,i did a research about Buddha and his teachings.I did it with my two other friends.I even asked the librarian teacher for the library keys,when i don't have class .After learning about Buddhism,i turned over a new leaf..I was able to be patient most of the time...and i never throw tantrums.I do feel-good after i practiced some of Buddha's teaching in my daily lives.I also learnt not to cause harm to innocent life...never even wanna stomp on an ant...When my friends teased me..i don't bother them much...but i do whack them once in a while for fun..He..heh..Can't resist it......What lesson did i learnt?Just like what i said earlier;i l was able to control my temper,give more respect to the elders...I knew that i'll never benefit for getting frustrated instantly and nobody likes grumpy people....Well,i can say i started to look life at a very different perspective,which is good.I changed for the better.

yeah. totally agree wit sunshine. probably in today's life religion might be losing it's significance as we r entwined in d never-endin rat race continually seekin for something outside. but when we give ourselves a moment of peace only then would we realize wat is it we're lookin for. i've gone through a major facelift ever since i was exposed to buddhism. but no matter wat religion u r, i strongly believe tat u can make d bez use of ur religion to have a happier n more meaningful life. 2accept life as it is. n not2resist smth tat u do not have any power of.

[vseehua]

yeah. totally agree wit sunshine. probably in today's life religion might be losing it's significance as we r entwined in d never-endin rat race continually seekin for something outside. but when we give ourselves a moment of peace only then would we realize wat is it we're lookin for. i've gone through a major facelift ever since i was exposed to buddhism. but no matter wat religion u r, i strongly believe tat u can make d bez use of ur religion to have a happier n more meaningful life. 2accept life as it is. n not2resist smth tat u do not have any power of.A lot of people had ditched the ancient values of life in favour of today's 'modern' values without thinking about the consequences. Do remember that the ancient values of life won't survive the times if it isn't fit for our cultural development.